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Perfection is a Lie

in Courage

Perfection is what a lot of people strive for – but the truth is that is makes us crazy.  We aim for perfection as a way to avoid being criticized. We think that if we are “perfect” then we will not be criticized – not true.  People will always find a reason to be critical.

Perfection is an excuse.  We use it to rationalize why we don’t have what we want in our lives.  We’re not the perfect weight, we don’t have the perfect amount of money in the bank, or we don’t have the perfect relationship.  What are we waiting for?  Life is passing us by if we are waiting on perfect.

Perfection is a shield.  We use it to sabotage ourselves.  If I’m not perfect, how could I possibly ask for a promotion or a raise or a date?  We use perfection to protect us from disappointment, but the reality is that we end up living in disappointment all the time because we do not go after what’s in our hearts.

So what’s the contrast to perfect?  Settling?  Absolutely NOT.

Perfection is a lie!  No one is perfect.  Settling is believing that you don’t deserve better or you aren’t good enough right now.

Love and acceptance are what’s in between.  Knowing that you’re worthy just the way you are.  Nothing needs to change in order for you to be good enough.

When you get sucked into the perfection trap – here’s what you can do to get out:

  1. Pick a positive mantra to repeat to yourself and say it 25 times per day. Mine personal mantra is “I am amazing.”  Please feel free to steal it…
  2. Remember that what other people think about you is none of your business. Because when you’re not focused on what other people think – you can move on with what’s really important to you.
  3. Speak to yourself with kindness and compassion. Speak like you would a small child or a dear friend.  You would never berate or yell at someone you love when they are hurting.  Don’t do it to yourself.
  4. When in doubt, always be grateful. Show yourself some love for all of the amazing things that you are doing.

If you want to make changes – awesome, but do it from a place of worthiness.  Do it from a knowing place in your soul that you are a wonderful person – and that you can be good enough and not be at your natural weight.  When you make changes from a place of love and acceptance, you will feel better and the result will be to take better care of yourself.   It’s a win-win scenario.

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