You can’t hate yourself thin. Trust me I’ve tried. I used to think thin solved everything. Sometimes I still do. Then I remember it’s not the answer. There are many thin people who are unhappy and have all kinds of problems. Thin can’t protect me from disappointment, heartache, sadness, loss, misfortune, bad timing, poverty, illness, etc…
Thin isn’t the answer – it doesn’t solve all your problems.
I’ve spent so many years hating my body for not looking what I wanted it to look like or what society told me it should look like.
Hating myself and my body only made me feel angry, embarrassed, frustrated and isolated.
Angry because I didn’t have the body I wanted, I had the body that I had. I didn’t appreciate it for all of the great things it was doing for me because it didn’t fit anyone’s definition of what it “should” look like.
Embarrassed because I didn’t feel that I looked good enough. I wasn’t thin enough. I was embarrassed about the way I looked and wanted to hide.
Frustrated because I couldn’t eat what everyone else was eating.
Isolated because I didn’t feel good about myself so I didn’t go places, I missed out on fun opportunities because I was feeling sorry for myself.
All of the above feelings were caused by stories I was telling myself. None of them were based on facts. None of them were true and not one of them helped me live the life I wanted to live – they kept me stuck and feeling small.
Do you want to change your life? Love is a good place to start.
Love looks like taking exceptional care of myself. Getting plenty of sleep, drinking lots of water, eating food that feels like fuel to my body, laughing with friends, making memories, not missing out on my life.
Love is living life. Showing up. Being fully present – not side tracked by what I look like in my clothes, or what other people think about me – but immersed in the moment. Loving the moment and truly enjoying the moment. And I can’t do that hating myself. When I hate myself I’m missing out.
We miss experiences because we think, when I lose 20 pounds, I’ll put my bathing suit on, or when I lose the last 10 I’ll go dancing, or when I’m back to my pre-baby weight I’ll go on the girls weekend trip. Stop It! Go now! Nothing is holding you back except you.
So love yourself. Love your body. Exactly the way it is right now. Be grateful for what your body does for you every day. Practice this and see what happens.