Dear Mean Girl,
It’s come to my attention that you are so happy to now be in the presence of “another pretty girl.”
I had to stop myself…Ummmm, what did she say? I think I need to have my hearing checked.
This was another one of those ARE YOU KIDDING ME moments!
I’m a shocked and appalled that a woman would say that. Clearly the message is that the other women around her were not up to “her standards” – which are what? Shallow and superficial? I think so.
How does someone utter those words out loud? More importantly, why would someone utter those words?
The short answer is because they are unhappy with themselves.
The human part of me had a lot of expletives to say…that’s just how I roll when I’m shocked to my core. And I’m not going to lie, my feelings were a little hurt.
The coach part of me quickly jumped in and started asking questions…because that’s what coaches do 🙂
After a few questions like “Whose business am I in?” And “Why do I care what she thinks? “ I calmed down and realized that she’s insecure.
Just because I do not fit her definition of beauty doesn’t mean I’m not “pretty,” Because I am!
So, after a shit ton of curse words, some coaching and a few deep breaths – I appreciated that these moments happen for my benefit.
They happen to test me.
They happen to see if I’m going to betray myself. To see if I’m going to fall back into old habits of thinking that someone else knows more than me and their definitions of beauty, brains and life (or whatever) are more accurate than mine.
Are her opinions more important than mine? Certainly not!
What makes her an expert on “pretty?” Nothing…it’s just her opinion and she’s entitled to it. I may not like it or agree with it, but she can think whatever she wants.
As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “What other people think of me is none of my business.” Eleanor was so wise.
Beauty is not only on the outside. It’s an inside job too.
As a beautiful woman, I believe that beauty on the inside in far more important. I’m blessed to be both 🙂 I didn’t always feel that way, but I do now.
I feel sadness for the woman who said that she was “so happy to have another pretty girl around.” It tells me that she’s insecure and hurting. That’s the only reason someone would say something like that. My coaching hunch tells me that she’s trying to feel superior by judging others based on their looks.
Go right ahead…
I’ve got news for you sweetheart, external beauty fades. What’s on the insides is what counts.
Rise up and support other women.
It’s the only way I want to be!
I want every woman to KNOW that she’s beautiful.
It’s easy to be critical and judgmental.
Truthfully, it’s not that hard to be kind and supportive. But it does help if you’re secure and confident in your own skin.
To build confidence and courage – look within yourself and appreciate your unique gifts. Celebrate what you do really well, it’s not arrogant, it’s self-worth.
Remember, you can’t build yourself up by tearing others down.
Let’s build each other up. It starts with each one of us. Let’s start today!
Prettier than she’ll ever know