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Are You F@#&ing Kidding Me Tom Brokaw?

in Shame

I recently heard a radio message from Tom Brokaw described as an “American Story.” In this story he urged the American people to bully fat people so they become thin!!! ARE YOU F@#&ing KIDDING ME???

I have always had a tremendous amount of respect for Mr. Brokaw as a journalist. I felt he could be trusted and reliable. NOT ANYMORE! You lost me, Tom.

The story was about how when he was a boy he and his friends were active and ate as much as they wanted. They were never overweight. His exact words that sent me through the roof were “let’s make obesity socially unacceptable.”

When in the hell did it become socially acceptable? Because I missed that memo. I’ve been battling my weight for almost my entire life and I can tell you I’ve never felt socially accepted. NEVER.

Tom Brokaw is not doing anyone any favors by enlisting people to fat shame overweight people into becoming thin. I’m most offended by the fact that he’s never battled his weight so he has no idea what it’s like to be overweight and yet he makes a call to action for the American People to make obesity socially unacceptable. WHAT??

Whether these are his beliefs or someone wrote this for him – it’s completely unacceptable!

Brené Brown talks about how people struggling with their weight need shame, like a man dying of thirst needs salt water. Exactly.

I created the image above because I love the quote so much. It’s from J.K. Rowling (author of Harry Potter), “Is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me.”  I guess Tom Brokaw doesn’t share her sentiments. Apparently being fat is the worst thing to him.

I think the real reason this is hitting nerve with me is that I’m finally on a path of self-acceptance, compassion and understanding and it infuriates me that other people feel they have the right to judge me on my appearance. They feel they have the right to comment on my appearance, they feel they have the right to bully, tease, and ridicule me, belittle and mock me because of my appearance and they are being sanctioned by none other than TOM BROKAW! WRONG!

I’m a FUCKING great person. I’m generous, kind and caring! Don’t judge me by my beautiful exterior. I’m so much more!

This is insanity! The answer to solving the obesity epidemic is NOT fat shaming! The answer is within each of us struggling with our weight. It starts with kindness. We need to find our own worthiness and make changes because we love ourselves. We need to stop crash dieting, cleansing, starving, taking magic pills and shakes to lose weight. It will never work until we figure out why we are overeating in the first place and we will never figure it out as long as we are being fat shamed by society. It’s the last socially acceptable form of bullying. And it needs to stop NOW!

So I’ll leave you with this…not one person who is overweight isn’t aware of it. We know. We don’t need your shame. If we ask for your help, please provide assistance without judgment or condescension. If we don’t ask for help, we don’t need you to point it out for us. Just love us unconditionally.  Hopefully, we are figuring it out for ourselves. I know it took me a long time to find my worthiness. I don’t have it all figured it out yet, but I’m a hell of a lot further along than I was a few years ago.

The real answer to obesity starts with you – self-love, self-compassion, self-acceptance. Once you accept yourself for who you are, the way you are, things will change! Trust me. As a Certified Life Coach, I can tell you that when you look at your self-worth and really question what’s going on in your life, things will shift for you.   Powerful questions will unlock your answers, not a fist full of shame. Once you get so tired of feeling bad about yourself, you’ll be willing to seek the answers that have eluded you for so long.

Do things for yourself, not because you’re being bullied, not because someone else thinks you should, not because you want someone to love you – do it for you and only you!!

When you make changes from a place of peace, happiness and love – the results will be lasting.   Not temporary. When you are doing things for you and not someone else, the changes will be easier.

And screw what Tom Brokaw has to say!

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  • Maryan September 10, 2015, 10:01 pm

    I just heard this on WOR radio (Sept 10, 2015), so they are still playing it on the air. I was HORRIFIED!! And I googled to see if he’d been making some sick campaign of fat-hating lately, and that’s how I found your blog. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Also, note that Brokaw said we should make obesity “socially unacceptable, like drinking too much.” Sarcasm alert: Yeah, because bullying people is the best way to get them sober. NOT. He’s an idiot. An. Idiot. And yes, those of us who were bullied by friends and even family for being fat when we were kids are BEAUTIFUL.

    • Shawna O'Hagan Morrow September 12, 2015, 11:56 am

      Thanks for your comment Maryan! We are BEAUTIFUL!! It is shocking that someone who is so respected can be so clueless. In a odd way, I’m grateful to him for his comments because it sparked outrage in me to speak up and stop sitting on the sidelines feeling sorry for myself. Now we are having a very important conversation!!

  • Dave Smith August 5, 2016, 8:15 pm

    I ran across your comments because I remember hearing Brokaw say these things. I’m watching the Rio Olympics and what do you know, I see an overweight Tom Brokaw on a horse. Someone should teach Tom about karma.